Counselling and support for
children and young people
Call TeenTalk on
01225 667328

Making the most
of your therapy

When you come for your first session it's worth understanding a few things about the whole business of counselling.

To understand better how counselling works, it’s worth thinking about what it’s not. It’s not the same as going to a doctor or other expert where you can expect to be advised, instructed, interpreted or directed. Your relationship with your counsellor will be somewhat different from this. Between you the power will be more equally shared. You will be in charge of the ‘agenda’, they will do their best to understand what you want to achieve and help you achieve it.

You will spend most of our time together talking but it won’t be like the conversations you are used to. Because their job is to understand you as much as possible, they will spend most of their time listening while you talk. It won’t matter how long it takes you; you will find that there are times when you don’t really know what to say or you might want to think about something before you say the words.  You can take as long as you like; you might even feel like saying nothing for a while, which is fine. Your counsellor will be happy to wait until you want to talk. When you do, what they will be doing is trying to understand how you are experiencing your world and what is happening to you. So when they do join in the conversation it will often be to reflect back what they have understood you to be saying and how you might be feeling. Sometimes they will be right and sometimes wrong, so you will have the opportunity to check on how well they are understanding you.

Another important element in your relationship with your counsellor is that they have no interest in judging what kind of person you are. Their interest is in helping you understand yourself and to explore how your life can be as satisfying and happy as possible.  If you change anything at all about yourself it will be because you want to, not because they think you ought to. For instance, supposing you are feeling very unhappy about something. It won’t be your counsellor's job to make you feel happier - their job will be to help you fully experience and understand your feelings. The reason for this is that a distressing feeling does not disappear if it is ignored - it may fade for a while but it can come up again and again. Counsellors believe that expressing emotions can be a healing process, so that you don’t have to use a lot of energy in keeping old hurts and pain buried. We could explore the options you might have and might go on to decide to do something to change things

– but this part of it will be in your hands.

We are able to deliver our services thanks, in part, to the generous support of these organisations
Big Lottery FundWiltshire Community FoundationMelksham Without Parish CouncilMelksham Town Council
© 4Youth (South West) | Site Map | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy
TeenTalk is a service provided by 4Youth (South West). 
4Youth (South West) is a company registered in England and Wales, Company Number 7871666.
Registered Office: The Canberra Centre, 56a Spa Road, Melksham SN12 7NY
Charity Registration Number: 1147394
4Youth Logo
linkedin facebook pinterest youtube rss twitter instagram facebook-blank rss-blank linkedin-blank pinterest youtube twitter instagram